Many people are talking about 2020. The decade does feel like a new start, and if you’re in a relationship, it’s not a bad move to take a look at your relationship and find ways to improve it. Even if you’re already a strong couple, improvement doesn’t need a low point. Here are some ways to boost your relationship this decade.
Go on Little Dates
Some people think of dates as something that starts at the beginning of the relationship, and then ends with a giant honeymoon after marriage. But your marriage could benefit from a few more sporadic dates. For example, don’t be afraid to go out to see a movie on a whim, or take your partner out for a cute little Valentine’s surprise. It’s cheesy, but it can improve your relationship quite a bit.
Laugh a Little
Laughter is the best medicine, not just for sickness, but for healthy couples. Couples who laugh a little together seem to have an overall improved relationship, and their chances of staying together seem to be increased. Watch a funny movie you two both like, or spend some time browsing the hottest memes.
Arguing is Okay
Some couples abstain from arguing because they feel like it’ll break the peace. What they don’t realize is that quite often, not arguing makes everything much worse. If you have an issue, it just bottles up until it explodes. Of course, unproductive arguing isn’t much better. The idea is to explain your feelings and come up with a solution.
When it comes to arguing, here are some things not to do:
- Don’t bring up the past. If you’ve had a problem in the past that was already resolved, don’t go dig it up again just for points against your spouse. Doing that is painful, and shows that you don’t take forgiveness seriously.
- Be mindful of your language. Avoid using so much accusatory language. You should talk about how you feel, but use “I” and not “you” so much. It is a little difficult to be mindful of your language when you’re emotional, but try to be in control.
- Don’t scream or express abusive behavior. Again, when you’re angry, this is hard to do, but it’s a sign a relationship has gone sour.
If you want to improve how you argue, one thing you can do is…
Go See a Relationship Counselor
In 2020, more couples can benefit from seeing a relationship counselor. Counseling for couples isn’t just for couples who are at their wits’ end; perfectly healthy couples can benefit from a little bit of counseling as well.
Couple’s counseling is great for identifying any miscommunications and other problems in the relationship before they grow too bad. Quite often, couples will ignore any problems, thinking that they will go away, when in reality, ignoring them just makes the problem a whole lot worse. It’s always beneficial to talk to a relationship counselor when things are going a bit south as well. Even if you feel like your relationship is too far gone, there’s a good chance that a counselor can salvage it. Quite often, you may find that it’s possible to return that honeymoon period that seems too far gone into the past.
Schedule More Time Together
One reason why many couples drift apart is because of their work lives. Work takes priority, and that’s understandable. However, try to work around that schedule. If possible, see if your workplace can change your schedule. If not, try to find a way for you to be able to work in all the time you can.
Plan for the Future
It’s important to plan for the future together. If you don’t have children and want one, what is the best plan for that? How do you plan to buy a house together? What are some expenses you wish to handle? All these questions are worth thinking about, and by making plans together, you can stick together.
Improve your relationship, and you can go far with it. If you’re still having difficulties, and nothing seems to help, then maybe, you two weren’t meant to be. However, most couples can stick together with a little bit of fine-tuning.
Marie Miguel Biography:-
Marie Miguel has been a writing and research expert for nearly a decade, covering a variety of health- related topics. Currently, she is contributing to the expansion and growth of a free online mental health resource with BetterHelp.com. With an interest and dedication to addressing stigmas associated with mental health, she continues to specifically target subjects related to anxiety and depression.
